Thursday, February 18, 2010

Do you want to go with me to the mall?

Pretty straightforward questions.

A legitimate response would be "Yes."
A legitimate response would be "No."
A legitimate response would be "Go to Hell." (although, that would be pretty harsh)
A legitimate response would be "What are you going to the mal for?"
A legitimate response would be "How long do you think you'll be there?"

This would not be a legitimate response "Fine."
This would not be a legitimate response "Sure."

I didn't ask you "Would you do me the favor of accompanying me to the mall?" I asked you "Do you want to go to the mall with me?"

If you want to go, great! Unless I'm asking you for some weird reason, I probably want to go to the mall as well, and we can both head off together.

If you don't want to go, great! I don't have to go with someone who doesn't want to be there.

Don't act like you're falling on your sword and doing me this huge favor. You're not. I don't want to be there with someone who doesn't want to be there.

So grow a pair and tell me you don't want to go.

Trust me, I can handle it. I could even handle the "Go to Hell" response.

Let me stop for a second, I understand the "sure" hang up might be a bit neurotic. Although, like obscenity, I can tell when someone is saying "sure" as a synonym for "yes" and when someone is saying "sure" as a synonym for "if you want me to go."

If I want you to go, I'll tell you.

We need to grow up as a society, or perhaps grow down. Children have no problem saying "no." Yet, somewhere after age six, "no" becomes a four letter word.

It is not selfish to say you don't want to do something! That's called, *gasp*, honesty.

Speak the heck up!

If someone takes your "no" personally, that's a them problem, not a you problem.

This should illustrate my point:

Do you want to continue reading this blog?

Will you please continue to read this blog?

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